if you’re going to make these assumptions that non-asexual people are “sex-happy,” have sex frequently or at all, have uncomplicated relationships to sex, are sexually attracted to strangers or other people they don’t have a strong bond with, etc., then you have to accept that there are TONS of people who fit your definition of asexual who are not part of any identifiable asexual community, who may not ever identify as asexual, who do not necessarily agree with any theories, politics, or systems of identification developed by asexual communities, but whose feelings and ways of relating to sexuality are just as valid as yours, and you have no way of knowing who they are. and when you assume that someone must not be one of these people, must embody every expectation you have about non-asexual people, solely because they do not identify as asexual, you are making very invasive and inappropriate assumptions about another person’s personal, private sexual feelings and that is not okay. and in particular when you do this to lgbt people, women, people of color, and especially people at the intersections of those groups, you are reinforcing ideas about their relationships to sexuality that play a significant role in their oppression.
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