Keanu Reeves, 1990s
I don’t normally say things on my blog but i need to share this. This is the picture of Keanu that has ruined my life. It has made me laugh so hard it has disrupted class twice. I mean look at that pout. Why doesn’t he have shoes on? Why does he look like he doesn’t have pants on? Who posed him like this? Why?
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Detail od Cupid and Psyche by Antonio Canova
something they have control over!!! yes!!!!!!!
My number one tip for straight men (I mean, it could conceivably work for other genders and sexualities, but you’d have to adjust it quite a bit) is: inagine they’re a man.
Imagine that you just randomly told some bloke in a pub that he has beautiful eyes.
That you walked up behind your coworker Jim and started caressing his neck and shoulders while talking to him about the budget.
That you just sent a large and unexplained bouquet of flowers to Darren in Accounting.
That instead of complimenting a coworker on her breasts, you complimented him on his dick.
Does the action now seem weird? Uncomfortable? Do you no longer want to do it now that it isn’t directed at somebody you are sexually attracted to?
That strongly suggests that your action has a sexual aspect to it and therefore probably counts as sexual harassment!
I have a large, colorful tattoo on one arm. I’ve had multiple strange men cross a room to tell me how awesome it is, frequently while I’m at work, and it has never made me uncomfortable.
A couple of weeks ago, someone yelled out a car at me ‘I FUCKING LOVE YOUR BOOTS’, which was awesome.
It’s just… it’s really not hard to compliment people in a way that isn’t creepy, if your goal is actually to compliment them and not to slide a ‘btw I’m thinking about fucking you’ under the radar.
I would also say this goes for anyone complimenting another person – not even to denote attraction.
Like whenever I see someone who gets their nails done – I always say I love them, the color, the design, etc. I wear fake nails – they take time, money, and effort to maintain. I love complimenting people on them because they ALWAYS light up.
Same with jewelry choice! “Oh I love that necklace!” Combined with a smile, or complimenting a purse, or your boots. Compliments for choices made are the best kind. Also, it’s a great way to pass off a confidence boost to someone.
You don’t know who might really need it!
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