I live well below the poverty line, so I live in a cheap, slummy apartment building where everybody else is poor, too. For the most part, I like this setup. I grew up in poverty, and I’m not comfortable around moneyed people. (It’s a topic for another day but people with money are really weird about, well, money. You can’t even talk about it around them.) But it definitely has its drawbacks. My neighbours and I are always running out of food and meds.
One of the many things I like about poor people’s culture, though, is that we tend to be really good at sharing resources. It makes sense: when you’re short on money, you need to have strong relationships to get by. Of course I’m going to give you what you need if I have it–I’m definitely going to need something you have in the very near future. Besides, when we’re all in the same boat, none of us is likely to believe that the reason I can eat today, and you can’t, is that I deserve it more than you, but next week when you can eat, and I can’t, it’s because you worked harder than me. Most of us are well aware that we’re going to stay poor, no matter how hard we work.
aka why tf am i procrastinating on The Thing (more like a flowchart, actually)
lots of people who have executive function difficulties worry about whether they’re procrastinating on a task out of laziness/simply wanting to be a jerk or mental struggles. this checklist might help you figure out which it is at any given time! (hint: it’s almost never laziness or being a jerk.) (obligatory disclaimer: this is just what works for me! something different might work better for you.)
1) do I honestly intend to start the task despite my lack of success?
yes: it’s a Brain Problem. next question
no: it’s shitty to say one thing & do another. better be honest with myself & anyone expecting me to do the task.
2) am I fed, watered, well-rested, medicated properly, etc?
yes: next question
no: guess what? this is the real next task
3) does the idea of starting the task make me feel scared or anxious?
yes: Anxiety Brain. identify what’s scaring me first.
no:next question
4) do I know how to start the task?
yes:next question
no: ADHD Brain. time to make an order of operations list.
5) do I have everything I need to start the task?
yes: next question
no: ADHD Brain lying to me about the steps again, dangit. first task is ‘gather the materials’.
6) why am i having a hard time switching from my current task to this new task?
i’m having fun doing what i’m doing: it’s okay to have fun doing a thing! if task is time-sensitive, go to next question.
i have to finish doing what i’m doing: might be ADHD brain. can I actually finish the current task or will I get trapped in a cycle? does this task really need to be finished?
the next task will be boring/boring-er than the current task: ADHD brain. re-think the next task. what would make it exciting? what am I looking forward to?
I might not have enough time to complete the task: ADHD brain wants to finish everything it starts. (if task is time-sensitive, go to next question)
i just want to make the person who asked me to do it angry: sounds like anxiety brain trying to punish itself, because I know I’ll be miserable if someone is angry at me. why do i think I deserve punishment?
no, I seriously want to piss them off: okay, i’m being a shithead
7) have I already procrastinated so badly that I now cannot finish the task in time?
yes: ADHD brain is probably caught in a guilt-perfection cycle. since I can’t have the task done on time, i don’t even want to start.
reality check: having part of a thing done is almost always better than none of a thing done. if I can get an extension, having part of it done will help me keep from stalling out until the extension deadline. i’ll feel better if I at least try to finish it.
no, there’s still a chance to finish on time: ADHD brain thinks that I have all the time in the world, but the truth is I don’t.
reality check: if i’m having fun doing what I’m doing, I can keep doing it, but I should probably set a timer & ask someone to check on me to make sure I start doing the task later today.
8) I’ve completed the checklist and still don’t know what’s wrong!
probably wasn’t honest enough with myself. take one more look.
if I’m still mystified, ask a friend to help me talk it out.
hope this helps some of you! YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE DON’T GIVE UP ON YOU
…unless u got ur life together & dont need to create the illusion of having real feelings through music (all on spotify)
i feel like glitter (upbeat playlist to dance around to in the kitchen or while getting ready for a party)
good times (music to host said party, the mood is smoking by the open window, spilled wine, spontaneously dying one of ur friends’ hair at 1am. mostly indie and some classic rock so ppl will know how cool u are and how very diverse ur music taste is)
dreammaker heartbreaker (based on frank ocean’s cover of moon river, a sleepy playlist, lots of tender feelings to lie on the floor and gently weep to after the party is over)
cry baby (angry girl music to listen to very loudly past 2am if u rlly love ur neighbours)
wind down (some real heartbreakers to then cry urself to sleep to)
soothe (instrumental film score stuff cause we sure do love to cry ourselves to sleep in this here house)
walls of white sandstone in the sun (you’re on a greek island there are palm trees the sun is scorching and you can hear the rushing of waves, nobodys crying)
snuck into the swimming pool (the smell of chlorine, cans of beer, light leather jackets, atmospheric and moody)
breakfast songs (that scene in romantic movies where the couple is all sweet smiles and soft touches the morning after, the smell of coffee and pancakes)
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A spell jar to isolate the negative energy of a person.
Ingredients – Red pepper – Ginger – Dirt (as dry as possible) – Common rock – Name sigil of the intended victim
Steps 1. Collect your ingredients and prepare your workspace 2. Find or create a name sigil for the intended victim. Write it on a paper. 3. Add the ingredients to the jar. 4. Crumple up the sigil paper or burn it and add the ashes to the jar. 5. Seal with a white candle.
okay i’m desperately trying to remember what this book/artist was called but did anyone ever read a book when you were younger that was basically just a collection of kind of surreal, dream-like illustrations with maybe sentence long caption at the bottom of the page?
the one that i remember the most clearly was a picture of someone who fell asleep reading in bed and there were vines and trees growing out of the book and covering their room. does anyone know what i’m talking about?
THE MYSTERIES OF HARRIS BURDICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (by Chris Van Allsburg)
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