Mongolians are cool because they’ve merged their traditional and modern ways of life so rather than having poverty due to losing all their important skills they just live in their yurts with their cows and 827474874mbs internet
sure their GDP in dollars is low but when you can survive like your anscestors did it doesn’t mean anything, nothing wrong with adding a motorcycle and wifi into the mix
Everyone should live like their ancestors did 1000 years ago but with the addition of wifi tbh
Adapt. Survive.
this is the single most inspiring piece of information I have yet to come across in all my moments in this world
being gay has changed almost all of my/my friends interactions with the rest of society so PLEASE stop saying it “makes you no different” and “it doesn’t affect you” and “everyone is the same”. this is a childish, ineffective way to address internalized homophobia.
your intentions are good, but you’re erasing years of trauma, abuse and isolation within gay populations caused by homophobic violence.
closeted or not, every gay person has had their interactions with others shaped by fear of homophobic retaliation. it’s not as simple as “they like the same sex”. it’s cultural. it’s beaten into us from reading age to reject “gayness” and femininity.
gay people do act differently from straight people, not because they are gay, but because they are raised in a society that rejects them, even before they know they’re different.
So I’ve been having this thought for a while now that I wanted to talk about with other trans masculine people who like women.
So, our experience with coming to terms with liking girls is nothing like a straight cis man’s.
And I mean that in the sense that, until I figured out I was trans at the age of 15, my experience of coming out and accepting my bisexuality (that’s how I first identified) was indistinguishable from that of any queer woman’s.
And maybe that’s why there are so many trans guys who come to terms with being trans and then really struggle to accept that they are straight.
Because being straight is the default. Growing up, my attraction to boys was never questioned, but I was terrified the first time I got a crush on a girl. I lived in denial about my sexuality for 2 years.
So now, visibly, I pass alright. People on the street read me as male. So if I have a boyfriend I’ll be visibly gay.
But internally? I don’t think of it like that. It’s been 3 years since I came out and I still haven’t been able to switch my thinking.
To me, liking boys is still the “default” and liking girls is still terrifying, unknown territory.
So I open this post to other trans people, what are your thoughts on this?
I totally get what you mean, i’ve often said that the way i love women is fundamentally different to the way that cis men love women.
I thought i was wlw for longer than i’ve known i’m mlm and so for me personally i am more situated into my attraction to women, especially because until I realized i was a trans man I was only interested in dating women.
The issue i personally have with my attraction to women is how much does it affect my place of privilege? like dating women feels really hard for me because i genuinely don’t want to recreate uneven heterosexual power differences and it’s hard to get it through my head that that could never be really true because i’m not a cisgender heterosexual person and i would never put those on any other bi trans man but i also never want to put that pressure onto a woman if that makes any sense?
I don’t know maybe it’s because i dated so many girls for a while and maybe it’s because I analyze myself too much but neither feels the default, being mlm is still so new and fresh to me and dating women feels like this forbidden zone due to my brains own weird thought processes
I wish it was considered normal to talk to yourself I have things to say
Honestly I wonder if people have ever advocated self-talk as a form of therapy? Like. Out loud. So many people feel like their voices have been stolen away from them after traumatic experiences and I always feel like there’s power in saying things to yourself out loud beyond like, mantra stuff. I just want to have a conversation with me
Like if it’s just me I don’t feel like I have to convince another person of my understanding of things. I get it. Let’s understand on a deeper level of ourselves. Like it’s stupid legitimate ableism like why is society against people talking to themselves
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