you’ve heard of mom friends now get ready for: Anti-mom friend. they suggest every single impulsive thought that runs thru their head like “hey what if you jumped in that pond in the middle of the night” to the group while the mom friend begs them to stop
there is a healthy, “natural” way to monitor your body and it’s called interoception. it’s feeling what you’re feeling; it’s awareness of fatigue, hunger, physical discomfort, the way emotions manifest physically, other needs/desires.
technology like scales & step counters, and constructs like BMI designations & clothing sizes are means by which we are alienated from our bodies.
we are first stripped of our interoceptive awareness (esp as women) by a culture that forces us into discomfort and pain in almost every area of our lives, and then we are sold devices and labels – external surveillance – as counterfeit substitutes for that healthy interoceptive relationship with our bodies
when i say let’s refuse to surveil our bodies, i’m not suggesting we become alienated from them, i’m saying exactly the opposite
Shoutout to any trans friends that’ll be misgendered by family during this holiday season. You’re strong and you’ll get through this. I love you and wish you the best.
bongdanceking 