do you ever wonder about like what percentage of people who become parents are actually like equipt enough in all the necessary faculties to be a good parent? i think if i had to guess, its like. 2%
literally this exact idea drives me absolutely crazy n i’m sorry to jump on your post like this but i think about this constantly
i cannot even begin to fathom what makes a person think they’re in any way qualified to Make A Person when the stakes are so high! it is so easy just to fuck a whole human being up just within their first few years of life if you do it wrong, holy fucking shit. like whenever you talk to a person about their issues 75% of the time 80% of their problems come directly from their parents i swear to god this shit keeps me up at night i don’t know how anyone intentionally and voluntarily has children and maybe i’m just too young to Get It or something but idk dude just the idea scares the crap out of me
which is not to say i don’t know good parents! i definitely do. but even well meaning well intentioned and often well equipped people make mistakes. not to mention how can you have faith in the state of the world within your child’s lifetime? how can you know you aren’t dooming them to live through the apocalypse or a fucking genocide or something
and the absolute most terrifying idea out of any of these things is sometimes you can do everything right and still raise a bad person !!! sometimes there are just things that happen to your kid outside of your control. you don’t raise a child in a vacuum and it’s not reasonable or healthy to try to do so.
in conclusion child rearing is a terrifying concept and i can’t fathom the sheer hubris of imagining you could do it without fucking it up, and the alternative is worse, which is the idea that people go into it knowing they’re not going to be able to do a good enough job and just say to themselves “oh well! it’ll probably be fine”
this is the post i wanted to make but my parents made me too stupid
bongdanceking 