in stone butch blues leslie feinberg talked abt the 3 items of women’s clothing rule where the police who raided lesbian bars wld check to see how much these women were still upholding femininity. i have never been thru that but i remember reading it + how much it resonated w me. this rule has not been expelled from our cultures mentality… i remember telling a straight woman i was considering getting a buzzcut + the 1st thing she said was ‘oh, they look great w big hoop earrings.’ there’s like a sort of balancing act where for every item of men’s clothing u’ve got to do penance thru makeup + accessories……. + its got everything to do w reassuring the person viewing you, who might feel challenged by ur shirt or jacket or jeans + so needs to be able to look down n take comfort from the pair of heels on ur feet. saddest manifestation is definitely when we internalize it– when the fear of being marked not-woman makes us wear sth we hate, just for some tie 2 femininity. the more masculine the clothing, the thicker the makeup
Month: October 2018
hot bitches still use their hands to determine right from left
i could wear a pronoun pin but like i personally feel that strangers dont get to speedrun figuring out what i actually am. they gotta do the hard work themselves and theyre just lucky i dont carry a gameshow buzzer around to press when they get it wrong
This feels. Unnescarily adversarial. I’m not going to question how you personally want to present yourself, but this seems just so. Needlessly making an enemy out of people
oh, no, let me be perfectly clear, if you’re cis and you look at me in public you are already my enemy from the moment you perceived my physical form
if you are confused about how to vote or register to vote, pm me and i will do whatever i can to help
i’ve helped several people and am still willing to help more!
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