why don’t we talk more about trans peoples complicated relationships with sexuality? how it’s hard to tell if you’re attracted to someone or just want to look like them, how when you’re questioning and figuring out your gender it’s difficult to find the right label for your sexuality, how it seems impossible to have a relationship in the first place because of people’s transphobia and/or the fact that they don’t see you as your actual gender. and how dysphoria interacts with your sexuality. trans people are definitely allowed to have a complicated relationship with their sexuality, and it can be hard to figure out, i hope people keep this in mind more
and this especially goes for trans people trying to figure out whether they are gay or not!! that’s hard enough to figure out without adding being trans into the mix! and considering that we don’t have your average realizing you’re gay experience
twitter users after 10 retweets: Well, since y’all are here… *self promotion* 😏
me after a 100,000 note post on Tumblr: everyone just leave me alone. I need some me time after 27 middle school kids came to my inbox to discuss the symbolism of Doki Doki Literature Club
freud: EVERY dude wants to fuck his mom and and EVERY girl wants to fuck her dad and also wants to be a man secretly
men: WOW!!!!!!!!!
“In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood incest victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest. Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology. According to this theory any young girl actually desires sexual contact with her father, because she wants to compete with her mother to be the most special person in his life. Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of incestuous abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for when they were children and that the women had come to believe were real. This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.”
— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
normal ppl on this site can literally type something like “hope u all get chocolates for valentines day” n one of u freaks will inevitably go “well im hoping to get tied up n dicked down until dawn but chocolates good too” like calm ur shit erika moen no one needed to know that
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