Fat girls matter even when we’re not “sexy/pretty”.
Correction: ‘fat’ girls are always sexy/pretty. Dont be putting yourselves in society’s boxes!! Love yourself!
Consider what this post is actually saying before reflexively being dismissive by attaching worth to physical beauty and (unintentionally?) being super condescending.
I’m going to use this comment to expand:
1) Fat girls who do not fit “acceptable” “sexy/pretty” molds of fatness – those with double bellies, huge arms, lots of stretch marks, no butt, etc…- still matter despite not being deemed attractive.
2) Saying “no you’re beautiful, you Matter!” ties the worth of fat women to physical beauty which is surface level and unhelpful because truly, fatphobia goes way beyond people not thinking we’re attractive.
3) Speaking of overcompensating, Fat women are already pressured to “apologize” for our fatness by overperforming femininity constantly and packaging ourselves in ways that are “sexy/pretty” just for people to treat us with basic respect. This post asserts that fat women who do not do that, who refuse to do that, still deserve that respect, still deserve to be seen.
I do thank you for your comment and hope that what I’ve said here allows you to reconsider your initial “correction” to this post! Especially since, I don’t believe you to be a fat woman.
We really need to break the association of beauty and worth. When you say “you’re beautiful even if you’re [enter societal ugliness here]”, you’re really saying “You’re a person who has worth”.
You can still be “ugly” by society’s standards and still be a person who’s worth love and respect and acknowledgement. This goes for anything that society deems “ugly”. Being fat, having bad skin, fucked up teeth, thin hair, scars, or whatever doesn’t make you a less worthwhile person. It doesn’t mean you don’t deserve love. It doesn’t make your life less important. You don’t have to be beautiful to deserve love and respect.
I really, really wish that people who think “you’re beautiful anyways!” realize how much of a backhanded compliment that can be, especially when we know that one person’s words mean nothing on a societal level. Just because one person can look past our ugliness doesn’t mean that we will suddenly not have to deal with fatphobia or people judging us because our skin or teeth are fucked or because we don’t have a beautiful, thick head of hair.
Don’t tell me I’m “beautiful”. I know that to be a lie in society’s eyes. Tell me I deserve everything that even an average person deserves, even if I’m “ugly” and will never be “beautiful”. Tell me that I have worth, even if I’m not aesthetically pleasing.
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